Sexuality is part of human life. It participates in psychic well-being. Likewise, psychic difficulties can have an influence on desire and sex life. Some people choose to forgo sexuality, thriving in other areas. Other people are in pain because they have difficulties in their sex lives, because they do not have them, or because they feel rejected because of their sexual orientation. Living your sexuality is not always easy, but it is important to dare to talk about it.

Sex life

Sexuality is an integral part of being human and responds to needs for intimacy, love, tenderness, warmth and affection. It combines body, mind and emotions. It is also a creator of social bond. Great sex is good for your health.

The desires, needs, emotions and behaviors that are linked to emotional life and sexuality are rich and complex. There are many ways to experience sexuality, with different expressions and rhythms.

Sexuality is demanding and fragile. It requires efforts to understand others and mutual understanding. When the needs or desires of partners do not match, it can be a source of suffering.

It is important to learn and stay informed on a subject that concerns all human beings from an early age.

Sexuality and mental health

A fulfilling sexuality contributes to psychic well-being. Conversely, an unsatisfactory or difficult sex life can be a source of mental health problems or discomfort. Relationship difficulties, sexual disorders (physical and emotional), infertility can weaken mental health.

Social pressures on sexual activity, gender roles, body image and sexual orientation are sometimes problematic, especially among young people. Women also sometimes face other pressures around pregnancy or abortion which can also have an influence on mental well-being.

It is important to pay attention to these questions around sexuality and not hesitate to share them with a professional at a sexual health center. You can also start a conversation with one of our volunteers

Mental disorders and sexuality

Many elements influence sexuality. Poor physical health, fatigue, stress or psychological difficulties can have a negative effect on desire and sex life.

Relationships with others and managing emotions are sometimes more difficult to live with in difficult times. Combining a fulfilling emotional and sexual life with its own weaknesses can be a daily challenge.

Medicines prescribed to treat certain mental disorders can have side effects and cause disturbances in sexuality, such as decreased desire, erection problems or ejaculation. In this case, it is possible to adapt the drug treatment. It is important to dare to discuss this with a doctor, psychiatrist or sexual health counselor to find a satisfactory solution.

Lack of sex life

Sometimes giving up an active sex life can be a lifestyle choice. There are other forms of personal achievement that allow fulfillment. Paths of satisfaction and personal development are possible, through creative, cultural or social activities. Continuing to train and learn new things helps develop skills and stimulates the mind. Friendship can satisfy an emotional life outside the usual couple model. Likewise, a couple can exist without having sex.

Sometimes an illness, a disability, an unhappy experience or even the difficulty of finding a partner prevents you from having a satisfying sex life. Such situations can be a source of suffering. It is important to dare to talk about it with your doctor, a professional at a sexual health center.

Sexual orientation and gender identity

The society we live in struggles to accept differences and may tend to reject those it sees as different.

In this context, being gay, lesbian or bisexual and living a fulfilling sexuality without guilt is not necessarily easy. Likewise, it can also be difficult to feel that you belong to a different sex than the one received at birth. Being or feeling different in their sexual orientation and / or gender identity can expose the person to rejection or misunderstanding from family, friends or even society. It can even put you at risk of verbal and / or physical assault.

These negative experiences can be traumatic. They create psychological distress, anxiety disorders, social phobias (isolation), can lead to depression and even to ideas or suicide attempts.

It is important not to be alone with your pain and to talk to someone you trust or to a professional. LGBT associations (Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals and Trans) can advise and help you. Support groups, bringing together people living in the same type of situation, allow you to share experiences, to feel better understood and less alone. Also, our volunteers are here exactly to fulfill this purpose Start here